cousin, meet cousin.

So my cousin “Abe” texts me one day asking me when I’m going back to Bangladesh. I gave him my standard reply: “I have no idea”. There was nothing odd about that in itself, except perhaps that I had just gotten back like 3 months ago. I just thought my cousin was missing me (hey people miss me okay!). What piqued my curiosity was when he replied with “You have to come! We have to tell you what we did!”

I should probably tell you a little about my extended family at this point. Though the maternal and paternal branches of my family tree hail from opposite ends of the country, my maternal grandfather settled in Chittagong, where incidentally, dear old dad is from. bangladesh-political-mapThis makes family visits wonderful! Everyone together. So the 2 sides of my family see a lot of each other, even when we’re not there. Abe is my uncles kid from my mom’s side. Tess on the other hand, is my uncle’s kid on my dad’s side. They are in no way related. The only common blood between them is me and my 2 siblings. That’s it. I didn’t lead with that since it might have come off as semi-incestuous. Which it is not! I assure you. So yes. This is the story about how 2 of my first cousins (from different sides!) fell in love and decided to get married. Only one of society’s biggest taboos keeping them apart. Only.

Arranged marriage me!

So I’m planning to do a series on arranged marriages. Not just the superficial “its bad, we should stop it” but a more personal ride. This is gonna be a story about my cousin, and how the girl he fell for is at what society deems a marriageable age. So he lives in the constant fear that she will one day be married off to someone that is not him. You’ll also be hearing my inadvertent role in this debacle. For privacy’s sake, we will call my cousin “Abe” and the girl “Tess”.

Hopefully by tomorrow, since it’s 5am now and I have an 8am class tomorrow, I will have the basics about the story up. And then each update will be up with every new development.

Stay tuned!

erm…..hehe?

so i haven’t been on here for a while, which probably mean nothing to anyone, except for like that one guy on whose feed this pops up. i have this tab open every time im on the internet, but life happens and i never got around to updating. and if life wasn’t happening, i was sleeping to avoid life, or procrastinating all of the above, so sorry. but yeah. i’m back. ish. i will make an effort to keep this up to date, but no promises, sorry! spots and not changing and all that jazz.

hope to see you soon!

once again, so sorry!

ciao.

Bandhobi: The Most Interesting Korean Movie You’ll See This Year

Originally posted on The Grand Narrative:

Bandhobi

Well, it certainly sounds like it will be, although I admit I have some reservations about Bandhobi‘s (반두비) “crude political satire,” and especially of its portrayal of an American English teacher as an “occasional rotten apple.” Given that it otherwise aims to transcend and/or educate viewers about such issues as racism, illegal immigration, and possibly even teenage sexuality, then it would be both ironic and quite a pity if it resorted to gross stereotypes of foreign male English teachers in the process.

(In passing, as I probably won’t get to mention them otherwise then reviews of the book “The East, The West, and Sex” by Richard Bernstein here, here, here, and here may help to put those stereotypes in comparative perspective, and are interesting in their own rights)

Still, Korea Times’s movie criticLee Hyo-won, whose excellent movie reviews I’ve sung the praises…

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Eid around the World

Eid around the World

It’s been over a week, but whether or not you’re a Muslim, you can still appreciate how the very same festival is celebrated (or mourned) around the world by different cultures. Through this powerful imagery, you can see that even on days of happiness, there will always be someone worse off than you.

Morbid, I know. Sadly that’s how the world works.